8 Engagement Ring Shopping Tips to Help You Find the Perfect Ring

Is it about time to start ring shopping? Congratulations! Buying an engagement ring and gearing up for the proposal is a crazy exciting time, and it's easy to get caught up in the romance, but remember: an engagement ring is usually a considerable expense, so you want to make sure you do it right. Whether you'll be scouting out rings together or you're heading out to shop solo, this extensive guide is key to finding the perfect engagement ring for your significant other.


1. Narrow Down What Shape You Want

Quick Tip: If you know what your significant other wants in terms of diamond shape, that helps focus the engagement ring hunt immensely. Every shape (also known as a cut) is priced differently—and each has a different price per carat. Round cuts are the most expensive whereas pear and marquise are less so. If size is important to you, you can get more carats at a better price when you choose an alternative shape to the classic round cut. Before heading out to shop for an engagement ring, study up on ring cuts and have one (or two) favorites in mind.

2. Choose a Metal for the Band

Traditionally, engagement rings (and wedding bands, too) are made from yellow gold, white gold, silver, or platinum—although in recent years rose gold has emerged as a fresh, modern alternative. While platinum may look quite similar to silver, platinum is significantly more expensive as it has a greater density (and is also more rare). Some metals scratch easier than others, so be sure to consider lifestyle—as well as budget, of course—before deciding how important of a factor metals are the final decision. You'll also want to think about if you want stones set in the band(s), as well!


3. Have a Carat Size in Mind

The age old question of quality versus quantity also applies to engagement rings; some people prefer a larger stone to a whiter stone, while others want the absolute clearest possible diamond, despite the carat count.

The spouse-to-be should definitely have an idea of her (or his) stone size, as much as people say size isn't important, it's always the kicking off point, because color and clarity can always be tweaked to find something within your budget.

Quick Tip: If size matters, keep an ideal carat size in mind when shopping together, and be flexible on the other elements to suit your budget.

But also, keep an open mind. Your significant other might think they know what they want, when it comes to size or shape, but trying on rings, they might find out they want something else entirely—it's always different once you start seeing things on your finger in real life.

Another Quick Tip: You can save some significant cash if you choose a less common carat size. Diamond prices increase significantly when they weigh the most desired weights: think half and whole carat weights (.50, 1, 1.5, etc.). Buy a diamond that is just shy of these common weights, and you'll save money and no one will be able to tell it's a .92 carat instead of a 1 carat.

4. Get Measured Correctly

This may seem obvious, but make sure you both get your ring fingers properly measured. You don't want a ring that's cutting off your circulation or, even worse, so loose it's at risk of falling off. It should feel snug but comfortable. If you're not shopping for engagement rings together, you can go get sized at a jewelry store on your own and then casually mention your size the next time the topic comes up (or tell your BFF so they'll know the answer when your partner asks them).

5. Consider How Your Engagement Ring Will Look with Your Wedding Band

While it is easy to get caught up shopping for the perfect diamond, the engagement ring is only one half (or less than half, if you're going the rink stack route) of the equation. Your wedding band—you know, the actual symbol of your marriage—is the oft-overlooked other half.

Definitely think about what style of wedding band would go with your ring. Some engagement rings don't allow a band to fit flush against them, so it's important to consider the full package of prong versus pavé and channel-set stones before committing to an engagement ring style.


6. Always Buy Certified

Buying an engagement ring is one of life's most expensive purchases, so take your time to shop smartly. When you finally find the dream ring, make sure you are buying a certified stone from an accredited laboratory such as the American Gem Society or the Gemological Institute of America. Diamonds certified by the other labs can have inflated grades, giving the customer the illusion of getting a great deal, when in reality they've only gotten a lower quality diamond, warns expert Ira Weissman, creator of The Diamond Pro. In fact, according to Weissman, this is the biggest trick jewelry stores play.

7. Make Sure the Certificate Matches the Diamond You See

Most diamonds are laser inscribed on the girdle and this can be checked with a jeweler's loupe, says Duke. "Many have inclusions so you can look at the diamond and see if you can match the imperfections to the map on the certificate, too."

8. Be Smart About the Quality of the Cut and Clarit

Quick Tip: Save big by purchasing the lowest color diamond that will still look colorless to the naked eye once set in a ring, suggests Weissman. "For round diamonds in white gold, this is typically an I or J color. In yellow gold, you could even go down to a K color," he says. "The difference in price between a J color and a D color is enormous." As for clarity, same concept goes. Opt for the lowest clarity diamond that is still clean to the naked eye, as it'll look identical to a flawless diamond assuming all else is equal, he notes. "The difference in price between an SI1 or SI2 clarity diamond and a flawless diamond is huge." SpellBound Jewelers is always willing to work within your budget and get you the best quality that works for your needs.

On the other hand, the quality of the cut of the diamond is one thing private jeweler Dan Moran, founder of Concierge Diamonds in Los Angeles, advises clients to never sacrifice on. Why? It's the cut of the diamond gives it that gorgeous sparkle we love. "If you take a so-so rough diamond and cut it perfectly, it'll look absolutely stunning. On the contrary, take a top-of-the-line rough diamond and cut it poorly, and it'll look like absolute garbage."

Bonus Talk | Brides' Corner: Real Brides Talk About Engagement Ring Shopping Before the Wedding

Still on the fence about whether or not you should go shopping for your engagement ring together? Every couple is different: some brides-to-be want to be entirely surprised, some drop hints (and share Pinterest boards), and others help their significant other pick out the perfect ring. To help you decide, we asked real women on if they went ring shopping as a couple before their proposals. Here's what they had to say:

"We went ring shopping to get ideas of what I liked. I don't think that ruins it, because obviously we'd been honest with each other and knew we wanted to get married. He then used a diamond from a family ring and had my ring custom made in the setting that I liked the most." Anya Swain

"We shopped together for my ring. [Because it was] such a big investment, my fiancé wanted to make sure it was perfect, but the actual proposal was a surprise." —Donna Faucett

"My fiancé and I went ring shopping after he proposed. It was a compromise—I wanted the proposal to be a total surprise and he wanted to go ring shopping with me so our rings would match. I must say, I wouldn't have had it any other way." —Carmen Montoya

"Who shops for engagements rings together? It kills the element of surprise." —Elise Bennet 

"I picked mine, and he picked his. I don't think it takes any significance away from the rings, we love them." —Lauren Price

"I went around just trying on engagement rings with my boyfriend. That gave him the option to pick out the ring himself while knowing what I liked." —Yolanda Holloway

"My fiancé and I went shopping together for the ring because we're always together. We knew we were going to eventually get married." —Danielle Watkins

"My husband and I decided to change my ring a little because we couldn't find what we wanted with matching bands, but it was truly up to him." —Patricia Snow